The author of this letter preferred to remain anonymous due to her husband’s role in the PD. It’s a heart-wrenching and beautiful tribute. Thank you so much for sending it to me. Much love.
I did not have the honor of meeting you personally. For that, I am saddened. However, I have had the privilege of ‘knowing’ you through my husband, your co-worker. I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I am for you. I know, without a doubt, that you were an exceptional person, someone we all aspired to emulate. I know this, not because of the extraordinary, heroic, and altruistic acts that I read on social media or heard about at your funeral, but because of the tangible transformation I see in my husband, because of your friendship. That is a testament to your character; an immeasurable gift that I will cherish forever.
“I needed Dave more than he needed me. He was just ‘that kind of guy’. He was authentic.” Those are words not spoken by my husband about anyone else. And, I mean no one else. No one. To hear my husband talk about your ‘larger than life’ personality, your passion for life and ‘living’, and your love for and devotion to Marta, your family and fellow officers, is to love you.
Your influence on so many people is incredible. I am grateful, perhaps selfishly, for the life changing impact you had on my husband. David, thank you for your wisdom, unconditional love, and selfless acts of kindness. Thank you for your contagious laugh, your funny and often vulgar humor, and your acceptance. Thank you for changing my husband. Because of you, his life had new meaning. His love for others was renewed. He was changed. He IS changed. Forever. Because of you.
Helpless, I watch my husband cry and shake his head in disbelief that you’re gone. He sees you in his dreams. He feels your presence in the warmth of the sun. He still looks forward to talking to you at work.
You live on in so many ways, in the lives you’ve touched, and the hearts you’ve mended.
David, know that you are loved beyond words. More than life itself. You. Are. Loved.